Nothing in my post refer to you as judging anyone.
I am speaking in the general term of "us" the families and friends left behind.
Sorry if you misunderstood my meaning.
And of course, talking about it is the best therapy to heal.
Good luck to you but try and not take upon your shoulders the weight of guilt as sometimes in life there is so much one can deal with all the hardship, especially when one's alone.
And if you want to express your sentiments I invite you to open the subject in Family Matters...you are more than welcome to do so.
Lady of Avalon