This is such wonderful news for you. It will finally lay to rest much of the wondering and speculation that you've had up till now. I hope that the meeting lives up to all your expectations. And always remember that you have friends here who love and support you.
It finally happened and what a day it was.Everything went smooth as butter. Alot of emotions but also a lot of joy and happiness for all parties involved.
It was a grand day, beautiful outside and wonderful inside. A feeling on completeness after so long...my first attempt on finding my biological parents was at 18.It seems that after all these years the number nine always so present in my life was aligned with all the good stars and the good fairies granted me this wish of a lifetime. I am 49 and my mother 69 and we are in 2009 and my birthday is the 29-09 and I've learned that my biological grandmother on my mother's side is 89 years old...I mean if the number nine is not present I must be blind.lol
At last this chapter of research and emptyness was finally fullfilled and most of all a good contact and acceptance has been achieved. My biological mother couldn't keep her hands of me. She was touching my hair,my face, my arms, taking my hand and kissing me. I would hold her in my arms so tight as she cried I think I almost chocked the poor woman...
Now is a new beginning and hopefully we will never loose ourselves ever again.
Believe in your dreams...it will come true.
"Few men are brave:many become so through training and discipline." Flavius Vegetius Renatus
"I think a hero is an ordinary individual who finds strenght to persevere and endure in spite of overwhelming obstacles." Christopher Reeve
I am so happy for you. It is good to be at peace with who you are and where you came from. I hope that you will have a long and joyous relationship with your new found parents. Meanwhile, I hope that your parents who raised you can be happy for you and realize that this does not diminish them or their part in your life. You are a very lucky girl to have two sets of parents who love you.
I cannot describe my happiness for you having had such a wonderous reunion with your Parents. Truely the Fates are kind and they also will rejoice for you. You are indeed a most fortunate girl having two sets of parents who love you.
Dear Lord, lest I continue in my complacent ways, help me to remember that someone died for me today. And if there be war, help me to remember to ask and to answer "am I worth dying for?" - Eleanor Roosevelt
The ultimate result of shielding men from the effects of folly is to fill the world with fools. -- Herbert Spencer, English Philosopher (1820-1903)
Thank you everyone for all the kind words and encouragements towards me throughout this process that is still going on as we have to get to know each other and to me that'll be the longest part of it. As this is slow working progress on both sides.
I thought to bring that little journal here up to date. As of this week unfortunately things did not go well with the relationship with my parents. I received a letter this week with threats from my father that he would take actions against me if I persist in trying to make contact to either of them.
This following a letter that I sent to them about my thoughts on the current situation and the few developments that occured since the initial meeting with them. Their indifference and no show of interests towards me but most of all the insistance from their part to keep in the dark, meaning not to divulge my existence to my siblings and act as if I do not exist. I couldn't concede to their request as I consider that no one can demand that from another human being especially a blood relation.
It seems that they took my letter as a threat to their dignity and thus ended our relation. Little that they know they have again rejected me by that action but they also lost me forever. I will walk with my head high unlike them that will always have a heavy burden of shame in their hearts. And little that they know that when the news will come out to my siblings and the proof of who I am, then they will have but no choice to explain what happened.
But I will still go forward with my next move to fulfill my dream to meet my siblings as they have nothing to do with the decision that my parents took when I was born..thus they have the right as human being to know that they have a sister that exist in this world.
That's if for now..and maybe later if new development comes ahead in meeting my siblings I will update that journal.
Hello my Friend. It is good to hear from you even though your news is upsetting. My heart goes out to you. Ils sont indignes pour etre appeles des parents. Ils sont sans honnouer et devraient avoir honte. Hold your head high Mon Cher they are unworthy of you. Take care.
I was overjoyed for you when you first made connection with your parents. Now my heart breaks at this development. Truly, anyone who could deny their own flesh and blood is someone I can not understand. I sincerely hope that you have a much better experience with your siblings. And always remember the family and friends who do love you. Many times in this world we make our own families and those that we make are based on love, not blood. Sometimes, one can have both, but if I have to choose just one, then I choose love over blood. Be well in spirit and heart. You know that you may write to me at any time.
Thank you for your support, it means alot to me. Please understand that I can no longer keep the picture that I've posted of our meeting last July. I know that you may think me a hard person when I'll say that to me though my heart bleeds right now they are dead to me and I will have to move on as now I know where I stand where they are concern.
I have a meeting this coming Tuesday with the intervenant who wishes to help me out in dealing with this and help through the next level. Though he is no longer involved in the work in progress with the previous project with my parents , he still wants to help me as he feels that I've been blown an unfair treatment from my parents. I sincerely appreciate what he is doing for me and I will keep this journal updated with the future development with my siblings if ever... I have to keep faith and that is my next dream. Hopefully, there will be at least one who will agree to make contact with me.
My dear Camac and CarolinaScotsman...a very special thank you and hugs and kisses I send your way for your undying support and friendship.
Thank you MDF3530 for the kind words and yes indeed they are missing a lifetime opportunity but unfortunately that is their choice and there is this old saying that says " one is supposed to learn from one's mistake " it seems that they have repeated that same mistake of 50 years ago.
Been a while since I've posted in here as I went back to work full time for I didn't want to drown myself into depression after this complete disaster with my biological parents.
Tomorrow it will be a year since that first meeting with them occured though even then I wasn't sure about their sincerity as you all know it was not so.
So this said I have made a decision which to some of you might find drastic or harsh or whatever you want to call it.
But since that cruel letter that I've received from my father and since that I know that some of my siblings knows now about my existence and have simply not bothered to even contact me as one of them have my phone number, all that they have given me as gift or money...I will burn everything tomorrow as a symbolic gesture of freeing myself of them and go on with my life.
To me that is the only way that I will be able to get on and turn the page as far as they are concerned.
Some have asked me not to do this as who knows...some might come or call in the future...but I cannot forgive any of them for the way I've been treated...maybe God or the creator in all his mercy will but I cannot...I'm human after all and I must go on and I deserve to be happy.
I am surrounded with my family and friends who loves me...to hell with the ones who still lives with prejudices..I couldn't care less about them...but the ones I love and love me for who I am are more and most important of all...so life goes on.
0 User(s) are reading this topic (0 Guests and 0 Anonymous Users)