Clan cousins - part 2, A get to know you game

[kylassie]

I had the notion to go to Scotland for spring break - the airline fares were going for $348 roundtrip on Orbitz! I had it all worked out to go for a week's vacation - but my husband told me that if I went without him not to come back!  

He cant understand why I want to go to Scotland, and I can't understand why he will not allow me to go !?! He thinks I have completely lost my mind!!! Is there any such thing as a "Scottish Standoff?" If there is, we are there now!

[maggiemahone1]

kylassie,  I'm so sorry that you can't go to Scotland. I have never been faced with that kind of situation so I can't tell you what to do.  If you went without his blessing you would probably be miserable the whole time.  Some people just don't get it went it comes to their ancestral roots.  I get real excited just thinking about Ireland and Scotland, it's as though something is calling you to go, see, feel, touch and walk on the same ground that your ancestors did. Some of my family doesn't get excited when I find out something about a gggrandfather or a gggrandmother,etc. like I do.  Some people are content just to know about their families in their lifetime.  

Just try to be patient and just maybe he'll change his mind.  I hope so.  I just can't imagine being able to go and then having your spouse not want you to go.  Hang in there.

maggiemahone1

[Cabbagehome]

Aw lassie, I so sorry you are having trouble with your mate over a trip.  Does he ever go fishing or hunting without you?  Is there any where on British Isles he would like see?  Mayhaps he would like to go with you.  I have always have had the freedom to pack up the kids and go, we would go for weekends with 4Hrs to a show or up to a month visting relatives.  It has a lot to do with trust, and how well the other can servie without you.
Well we'll pray for you. Should we send him Scotland travel fliers?

[kylassie]

My DH likes to golf, so I have been attacking this from that angle  - we can visit St.Andrew's golf course when we go. His idea of traveling is to wait about 20 years to "retire" and THEN travel to see the world! HAH! Well, it will be a lot harder for him to get around a golf course 20 years from now, now won't it? Don't worry gang, I have not given up completely!!!!  

[maggiemahone1]

kylassie, tell him there's no time like the present time, who knows what tomorrow might hold.  My husband and I always planned to travel and now he is disabled and we can't go the places that we would like.

Maybe your hubby doesn't quite trust the airlines right now, because of the 9-11-01 tragedy.  I know my hubby doesn't. It wouldn't bother me a bit to fly.  I would be too excited to worry about what might happen.

All of the brochures and magazines I've read they say there is really great golf courses in Scotland and Ireland.  In fact you can stay and play all you want at the golf resorts.  Go out and buy him a new set of golf clubs, maybe that will get him interested. A woman's got to do what a woman's got to do.
   

maggiemahone1

[kylassie]

Maggie, if we live our lives in fear then the Terrorists have won! I am a firm believer that when a person's time on this earth is up, then that is when that person will go. I have never been on an airplane before in my life and I am terrified of heights - although I prefer to describe it as a healthy respect for gravity.

I feel drawn to Scotland for some wierd reason! There is just something inside of me that won't give me any peace of mind until I make the homecoming trip. Is there something inside of us like the same homing instinct that sea turtles have that makes us return to places we have never been before?

[Mel]

Maybe you are right kylassie...

There must be some kind of instinct that push us to discover our origins.Maybe we're more connected to the past and our roots than other people. By being more grounded we're more aware of that connexion with Scotland and Ireland. I felt the same as you do about Ireland. I just HAD to go there. It was almost an obsession. And no terrorist or plane crash could stop me from going back there. when the time will come for me to leave this Earth that I love, I'll leave without regrets and a satisfied mind.

[aklassie]

Kylassie, I wish I had some wonderful advice to give you right now.  I heart and prayers are with you to be able to fine a solution to this empass you and your hubby are going through right now.  I know how you feel.  I think all of us on this forum feels the same pull to go to Scotland as you do.  Some of us are lucky to be able to go, some like you and I can't right now.  Someday I WILL go is in my thoughts always.  I hope the same for you.  I hope the golfing will work for you, give it alittle time, maybe he'll come around.

[Skootz]

Quote (kylassie @ Mar. 20 2002,2:49)

I had the notion to go to Scotland for spring break - the airline fares were going for $348 roundtrip on Orbitz! I had it all worked out to go for a week's vacation - but my husband told me that if I went without him not to come back!   He cant understand why I want to go to Scotland, and I can't understand why he will not allow me to go !?! He thinks I have completely lost my mind!!! Is there any such thing as a "Scottish Standoff?" If there is, we are there now!

Oh now that isn't right. He may fall in love with the glens and the mountians, Scotland is BEAUTIFUL in the summer. And some of the most awesome golf courses in the world..besides how many golfers can honestly claim they have played St Andrews? My mothers clan has a family course right by Loch Lommond...never got into the game, but the course is stunning.....

[Skootz]

Quote (kylassie @ Nov. 23 2001,11:28)

Okay, our Clan Cousins post got a little off topic, so I am beginning the thread again so that others will feel welcome to play this game. If you wish to see what happened to Scots Highlanders who wound up in America, Scottish2 has a very good graphic made up of my Uncle Joe in the first thread. I wanted to continue a discussion regarding something one of my professors said long ago - Everyone in the whole world is 6th cousin to everyone else.  When I discussed genealogy issues with one of my friends, I mentioned that part of my family were Stewarts from Scotland. Well, my friend was born in Florida, and is of Cuban and Spainish background. As it turns out one of her grandfathers from Spain, had married a woman named Stewart ftom Scotland! So I guess that makes us 6th cousins!  I have had many such conversations along the way in my life, and we can often find familial connections many generations removed. Remember, your ranking as a Clan Member increases everytime you write a post!  I started out as a "Peasant" at the beginning of this week, but due to my frequent posting, I have now risen to the ranks of "Braveheart Member."  There is no secret to rising through the ranks, only that you absolutely must write posts, no matter how long or how short, in order to increase your Clan Ranking. Slainte, Janet

Ok I am of the Clan Colquhoun.....septs are as follows:

Ardincaple/Cahoon/Cahoun/Cahn/Caleacahan/Calgahan/Calhoon/Calhoun/Callahan/Cameron/Caun/Cessoc/Cohan/Cork/Cothun/Cowan/Cowen/Culchom/Culhane/Dalglish/Douglas/Gahn/Golmer/Gilmore/Gilmakessoc/Grant/Imgram/Kahn/Kessan/Kessog/Kilpatrick/Kirkpatrick/King/Lang/Law/Leckie/Lennox/Logan/Luss/MacA'Chambaich/MacAulay/Maxauslan/MacClintock/MacCowan/MacFarlane/MacKessog/MacKinley/MacLinden/MacManus/McOwen/MacWalter/O'Cahan/O'Corkle/Potter/Gulchone/Smith/Smollett/Walker

Scary thing is, my ex husband, a Smith, was a distant cousin. His Great Gran was a MacCowan

[RavenWing]

What about Johnson?

[TracyLynn]

McClane here  

[MDF3530]

<----two clans here: Clan Maxwell (Scotland) and Clan McLoughlin (Ireland)

[Brenna]

Clan Cumming - the Russell sept.? Looking up Clan Russell shows a tartan, crest & motto of our own, but I have no idea when or where active members existed.

[RavenWing]

3 Clans:  Buchanan, Cameron, and Gunn