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dragonboy3611  |
Posted: 22-Jan-2005, 02:09 PM
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Shortly after getting off celticradio early this morning my grandmother called for my dad. She immediatly insisted on speaking to my father, and sounded quite sad, i asked "What ya don't want to talk to your one and only best grandson!?" she just told me quite harshly to give the phone to my father. After a lengthy conversation, my father came back into the room in which I was sitting with the computer, wondering what the heck was going on. He told me my grandfather had something cancer caused in his stomach...he wasn't eating or getting fluids and was in the hospital. That it's only a matter of time and the doctors can't do anything for him, there is only a slight chance that he will survive. Now consider me lucky, but I have never had anyone so close to me die...or be so sick. Only a great-grandmother that I didn't know. I am close with my family, so close, I could die for any one of them...too have something like this happen...it's just shattering. The problems that people face....man it's just to much.
My grandmother and grandfather were in Arizona enjoying there vacation and escaping the cold. It's the best time of the year for them, and now it is ruined. I ask that everyone send there prayers to my grandfather Robert Clark..in some hospital thousands of miles away, laying there just barely staying awake with his wife by his side, wondering if he will live. No relatives near, no other close family or anything that he is familiar with. I had never understood the true pain that Nightwind with her grandchild, or Rindy with her brother, or anyone else had gone through.
I'm sorry...I just sortof typed out my hurt feelings. I ask please that you send your prayers to my grandfather, grandmother, and family. And to anyone else that needs it. I send them heartfully to yours.
Love a CelticRadio Brother,
Adam
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"Men at some time are masters of their fate"
Jul Caesar, Act i, Sc.2
"When sorrow comes, they come not single spies, but in battalions"
Hamlet, Act iv, Sc.5
"All that lives must die, passing through nature to eternity"
Hamlet, Act i, Sc.2
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| stevenpd |
Posted: 24-Jan-2005, 11:19 AM
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I arrived at this thread a little late . . .
You grandfather is in my prayers and meditations. Adam, hang in there, be strong, and remember the good times. You and your family are also in my prayers and meditations.
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2018 Vote in the 2018 Music AwardsDear Lord, lest I continue in my complacent ways, help me to remember that someone died for me today. And if there be war, help me to remember to ask and to answer "am I worth dying for?" - Eleanor RooseveltThe ultimate result of shielding men from the effects of folly is to fill the world with fools. -- Herbert Spencer, English Philosopher (1820-1903)
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| Agrona Borimar |
Posted: 26-Jan-2005, 11:11 AM
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Adam,
I am deeply saddened to hear about your Grandfather's condition. While many of us can relate to your grief, fear, frustration, and pain none of us will ever truly understand how you feel.
We all experience hardship and heartache at some point in our lives, for some rarely for others all too often. Everything that happens in our lives does indeed serve a purpose, most often it is defined as an inner journey into your mind and soul as you work within yourself to reconcile your emotions, your tasks and your fears. From every trial a lesson of the self is learned.
All too often our most painful moments are out of our circle of influence and we feel like helpless bystanders to one of the worst moments in our lives. I experienced that with my maternal Grandmother, though I can't explain my conviction I simply knew her time was near when I went home for Christmas three years ago. She died a month later.
Now my husband and I are experiencing a similar heartache to yours with his father who has pancreatic cancer. The survival rate for that cancer is 1-5% and his tumor is inoperable so we too are depending on chemotherapy which hasn't produced the results we'd hoped for thusfar. My husband has found his peace with this in that it has indeed served to strengthen the bond within his family, a seemingly impossible task 6 months ago. He has also spent considerable time on-line researching in an effort to possibly find those small bits of information that could make a difference in his father's treatment. He has had small successes here and there but the most positive outcome has been that this research has provided him what he needs most, the sense that he is doing something to help his father.
I tell you this not because I have the solution to ease your heartache but rather in the hope that relating what has helped my husband, may in turn help you. You know far more about your grandfather's condition than I or anyone else on this board so only you can know if this will help you cope.
There are only two things I will advise you: first of all, do be strong for your family but NEVER forget that YOU ALSO NEED THEIR STRENGTH. Secondly, allow your self to cry, I can't tell you how important this is for healing your heart, and if you do break down infront of someone NEVER, I repeat, NEVER apologize for your tears. You have every right to them and should never feel shame for them.
Before I end this post I wish to extend one more offer to you that you are welcome to accept or decline, no hard feelings at all if you decline. I am a former Funeral Director and counseled many families through their grief. I also found myself couseling them with grave illnesses in the family. I do not have all the answers but I am a good listener and am willing to be your sounding board if you require one. I know you don't know me from Adam (no pun intended) but my PM box is open to you.
My thoughts and hopes for your Grandfather's recovery are with you and yours. May you have the comfort of family and respectful solitude when you need them most.
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