You could plan on going this this in August (Of course if you didn't already have plans). Might help cheer you up knowing someting quite exciting (IMHO) is coming to town.
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| Posted by: Mel 10-Apr-2002, 09:52 AM |
| Hello everyone! How do you guys cheer yourself up when you're feeling low? I need some advices or suggestions because everything seems to go wrong since last week. I can't find a way to relax and feel better. I,m tired to see the world with grey glasses:( Thanks a lot Mel |
| Posted by: scottish2 10-Apr-2002, 10:18 AM |
| Hi Mel You could plan on going this this in August (Of course if you didn't already have plans). Might help cheer you up knowing someting quite exciting (IMHO) is coming to town. http://www.montrealhighlandgames.qc.ca/ |
| Posted by: Aon_Daonna 10-Apr-2002, 12:09 PM |
 Even after a solar eclipse the sun comes up again. Your troubles will go past like the moon goes past the sun. (I won't use the thing with the rain and the sun coming up after that, because in scotland it rains and after that it can rain even heavier...) But rain and sun together can do something beautiful (in this way, even the (unwanted) rain can have an advantage):  that's on skye btw |
| Posted by: maggiemahone1 10-Apr-2002, 02:56 PM |
Mel, I'm so sorry that your down and out. Sometimes if isn't one thing it's two to get us down. Sometimes just looking in the face of my daughters and my gdaughters is enough for me to be so thankful. Pick yourself up, and be determined that the next day will be better than the one past. Take one day at a time. Don't let life get you down. I really hope you feel better and can be happy.  I'm sending you some  and  . I hope you enjoy.maggiemahone1 |
| Posted by: Macfive 10-Apr-2002, 04:42 PM |
| Hi Mel! I am so sorry your feeling down. Sometimes life throws us things we are just not prepared to take. Sometimes it feels like it is too much. I have a couple of things that cheer me up that you might want to try: 1. Go for a bike ride or a long walk. Getting the body parts moving and grooving and that ol'heart pumping can do wonders. Or, some activity that you enjoy that gives you a good workout. For myself, I love to bike ride! 2. Get a big dish of your favorite icecream. Make sure it is the real type made with cream or milk. Just check the cartons for the one that has the highest calories. If it has chocolate in it, all the better, chocolate icecream brings me outta of the worst downers sometimes! Hope that you are feeling better real soon!    |
| Posted by: aklassie 10-Apr-2002, 10:11 PM |
| Hi Mel, sorry to hear you're feeling down. You did the right thing by telling FRIENDS how you feel. Sometimes just sharing how you feel makes all the diffrents in the world. I hope you get to feeling better soon. Any way we can help, let us know. |
| Posted by: Falachaidh 11-Apr-2002, 11:01 PM |
| Hi Mel I definately know how you feel looking at the world through anything but rose colored glasses. Sometimes I wished the world didn't even exist. But then, where would that leave me? Some things that I did to bring me up a bit- I got out. Even if it was by myself. I went to a movie by myself.. and I totally and utterly loathe being alone, but it made me forget for a couple of hours. I also took a dog for a walk. Seems silly, but the playfulness and innocense really made me realize life really wasn't all bad. I just had to actively find a different way of looking at it. I took my old ex hubs pictures and ripped them to shreds and tossed them in the outside garbage can. yeah, that made me feel so much better. I expressed my positive thoughts on friends to them personally.. whether through emails or just going to see them. I think that's what the trigger was for me. My friends are my family. I also cleaned and re-arranged the room i was renting at the time. I felt productive after that. Anyways, all those tihngs done within a day or so of one another really helped pick me up. I also took a day off work and slacked around in my sweat pants browsing the internet for things I always wanted to know about. And I watched Judge Judy yell at ignorant idiots drinking a big mug of hot chocolate. That at least put a smirk on my face. I hope you feel better soon !!    |
| Posted by: ShortBit 12-Apr-2002, 11:04 AM |
| Mel, I have always been a happy person but 3 years ago I went through a time that nothing went right.. I wanted to stay in bed and sleep... didn't feel good about anything.Didn't feel like I had any control over myself. At first I thought that my potassium level was too low...I have to take lots of potassium tablets and had experience depression because of low potassium. I went to my doctor. He walked into the room, said "How are we doing today Pauline?" I burst into tears..."I don't know what is wrong!!!" He gave me anti depression medicine. I was mortified!!!!!! I told him..I am NOT crazy!!!!!!! I am NOT on the edge of a nervous breakdown!!!! I am not going to go around in a stupor! I was not going to take that stuff!! His answer: If you were crazy you wouldn't know you needed help. If you were going to breakdown I would send you to another doctor ..I treat your asthma. The fact that you know you are depressed if a good sign! Millions of people experience depression because of chemical changes in their bodies. The Results... I have been taking the meds.. I am back in control...I still get depressed over things...but it is the normal stuff... and I do move on. I feel so much better!!! My advice: If your depression hangs on and seems to get worse ... go to the doctor and tell him. You don't have to suffer . My email is [email protected] if you have questions that I might be able to answer |
| Posted by: Falachaidh 17-Apr-2002, 11:29 PM |
| I don't know if women are more susceptible to depression or not. We seem to have a million of chemical things happening to us. At the height, or worse, i should say, things were very very bad for me. I debated about posting this, but I think every woman should know about this issue/problem. I decided at 25 years old to go on birth control for the first time in my life. I always had what doctors would call 'abnormal' cycles, but I was used to it, and that was life. I got divorced, had to find a real job/career and moved across the state to live with friends becuase i was in the middle of paying off my credit report to find out I was in major jeopardy of being layed off. To "save" my job, they stuck me in the filing room and there I stayed until I left for Oz. I got depressed, and already having gone through that in childhood, I knew how to deal with it. What made it worse was the depo-provera shot I took. I bled for three months, then stopped for two months; meanwhile I was being told that it will all work out and the more shots I take, the more 'normal' my cycle would become. Every three months, I was scheduled and went in for my second shot. The staff told me it was normal to experience excessive cycles. So, I believed them. Maybe some of you know that during a cycle, there is a severe loss of protein - and for me, I get dizzy, I shake and just get totally discombobulated. Unless I eat roughage like salads in the morning and a steak for lunch, it gets worse throughout the day. I'm sure you can imagine how I was being for those three months of non-stop heavyness. I was very depressed. My insurance plan did not cover b.c., so I was at the guide of Planned Parenthood. -I had ultimate faith in them because I believe in what they stand for- I had done all the research and read all the pamplets they gave me about depo-provera. I knew it was only on the market for 5 years. They didn't tell me there wasn't enough research done with it, and they were still testing the hormone in this form. I was not informed that my problem was extremely common. I was told, however, that if I decided to stop, it would take anywhere from 6 months to a year to get out of my system... depending how many injections I took. Because I was feeling depressed and so horrible, i missed two of my best friend's weddings, I miss out on going out in general. I slept quite a bit and didn't even bother to log into the computer because I knew I had to talk to people. I basically disappeared from some of my good friends. When they finally caught me, they asked me if it was worth it. I decided to go to my regular doctor. She prescribed me the pill and told me to not take my next scheduled shot (the 3rd one). I was very uneasy about her recommendation. I asked her why she wasn't treating the problem; which she said if she treated the symptoms, the problem would go away. I got two other second opinions which they backed up my doctor's advice. Still feeling unsure, I went to my mom's holistic doctor/chiropractor and asked her advice. She said if it was her, she wouldn't do it. But she doesn't drink pop/soda or eat McDonald's either. I followed her personal advice and threw away my prescrption paper and didn't go in for the 3rd shot. I thought things had settled down, after being extremely overactive, and sure enough, I had a normal, scheduled cycle. Exception: it was twice per month. At least it was clockwork and never took me by surprise unlike the previous few months. I just crossed my fingers and hoped it would just all work out. Afterall, it just had to run its course and get out of my system. It was exactly one year to the date which I took my first injection that I experienced a normal healthy cycle. It's been two months that this has happened. I am very worried and a bit scared, but I just pray to god that this is it...back to normal for me. The depo had triggered some other problems for me. I became anemic and developed low blood sugar, which can develop into diabetes. My metabolism was very high and now it is at a much slower rate. I also have had a swelling of the thyroid. I also gained 35 pounds within one month (so all of my size 4s had to be given away). I had to stop dancing because I was in so much pain. I had so much water retention in my legs and abdomen, my organs were pushing against one another when i danced. I always had to elevate my legs because when I layed them flat, I had sharp pins going through them. I never felt fully rested. It was just a horrible experience. Once I stopped, my water retention went down quite a bit and I was able to return to dance. I grew excessively tired and could only dance the cut 4 steps instead of the 6 steps normally. because I was always still dizzy, the sword dance was almost impossible to do, as well as the highland reels. On top of all of this, I was extremely frustrated knowing I couldn't do my passion -let alone compete. The pain in my legs went away, and promptly came back my shin splints (I've had them since I was 14). At least I knew how to deal with them, but I wasn't quite as bouyant as I normally danced. It was due to the extra weight. I went from a size 4 to an 8, sometimes 10 in women's within one month. I am a healthy eater and hardly eat junk. (actually this trip has been a lot of junk-the most I've eaten in my entire life!  Right before this trip, I bought some new clothes, all size 6s which fit very nice. I'm now finding some of those new clothes are a bit baggy on me. I don't ever want to drop to a 4 again <--way too thin, but I am happy where I'm at. I feel healthy, and since I've been back at dance lessons, I've been able to dance a full fling, sword and reels. It took me almost 6 months to get back to that level where I was before all this crap started. (for those keeping track: March, year 1 I took the first shot. July year 1 the second shot. Doctors visits early October, year 1. Did not take the third shot scheduled October, Year 1. November-December Year 1 everything went haywire. January, Year 2 i danced the full fling, swords, trews and reels without stopping for the first time in a year. March, Year 2 first normal cycle; i also competed and i felt I danced well and finished my steps.) All of this because I thought I needed to do something just about every woman does. I think I'll take my chances for now on. Seems scary to say that, but being responsible for your own body and actions is more important than trying to make a "short-cut". At least I'm not depressed anymore |
| Posted by: welshman 18-Apr-2002, 03:55 AM |
| http://www.fourteenfalls.com I think a lot of us suffer fro depression at sometime or other After several operations to my knee, I had to retire on medical grounds. My leg hurt, I was in pain both mentally & physically. I was angry & upset at not being able to do the things I'd always done, cycling, running, walking, playing rugby etc etc. I inernalised the anger, but it kept on breaking out by my swings in mood, and nightmares when asleep. My wife urged me to go to the Doctors. I refused at first, thinking that the stigma of admitting I wasn't well mentally, would mean that people would think less of me. But Lindsay eventually persuaded me to see the doc., who was very kind a responsive. She suggested getting therapy, but again I refused, thinking I didn't need it but evenually I went. I got a lot of support from friends and colleagues, I also had a little presciton help (prozac) & that helped immensly. Eventually I started seeing things in a different light, was more positive, I started to teach myself how to use the computer, I tookk our dogs out for walks and began to feel better about myself. You just can't pick yourelf up, nad dust yourself down when your feeling so low, you have to accept that you need help to get yourself back together, there's not always an easy solution. |
| Posted by: Aon_Daonna 20-Apr-2002, 01:24 PM |
I think now it's me who needs to be cheered up. It seems like my great grandfather won't survive this night.  We just received a phonecall from the hospital where he spent his last days. I know that his life was hard, especially since the death of his wife last year and I know that his time has come but I'm still sad. I have known him nearly 20 years of my life which seems a mighty long time to me. In the garden of his house I made my first tries in walking, I played with his sheep and I saw him and my great grandmother still loving each other. They had a great impact on my life and I doubt I would be the same if I never knew them. |
| Posted by: Aon_Daonna 20-Apr-2002, 02:04 PM |
he died at 9pm, met...  |
| Posted by: scottish2 20-Apr-2002, 02:18 PM |
| Hi Aon Let me be the first to send my condolences along on your G-Grandfather. I wish I had chance to know mine better but one died around the time of my birth and the other just 4 or 5 years after so didn't really know him. Is said when a loved one dies. I know my last grandparent (My mom's mother) passed away in 97' is always a sad time. I hope you and and your family remember all the good times you had with your G-Grandfather and remember at least you had chance to get to know him. |
| Posted by: maggiemahone1 20-Apr-2002, 03:05 PM |
| Hi Aon, My sincere sympathy to you and your family. Treasure the memories always and store them in your heart. For they are something that will help you get thru the hard days and nights ahead. My goes out to you and yours. maggiemahone1 |
| Posted by: scottish2 20-Apr-2002, 06:59 PM |
| How dumb and I? I had the wrong generations. Seems I missed one set of G-Grandparents in my last post. I didn't get to know any of them in Fact never had a chance to meet my Dad's father as he died about 6-7 years before I was born. So cheerish all your memories. |
| Posted by: aklassie 21-Apr-2002, 04:42 PM |
| Hi Aon, Sorry to hear about your G-grandfather's passing. My and prayers go out to you and your family. May God bless you all with His peace. |
| Posted by: Mel 24-Apr-2002, 11:36 AM |
| Dear Aon, My sincere sympathy to you and everyone you know affected by this great lost. You're in my prayers and I'm sending you good energy to help you get through this. Whenever you feel like talking (well, writing about it) you can do it. It will be a pleasure for me to read you. |
| Posted by: Aon_Daonna 24-Apr-2002, 11:58 AM |
| Thank you very much for all your sympathy and your condolences (I never wrote something in english, so please excuse me if I choose the wrong words). The funeral will be this friday and I think I will survive that. He was 92 and it was time for him. I think it was better for him. There's only one thing that makes me sad but also quite furious. He isn't buried yet but my relatives (not my parents but my grandmother and her siblings) already started to quarrel over his money and his house. That just makes me sick. |
| Posted by: Macfive 25-Apr-2002, 04:20 AM |
| So sorry to hear about your Grandfather. It is so hard losing a Grandfather, especially one that has been around all of your life. I was fortunate enough to have both my grandparents for a good portion of my life, but then my Grandmother died and my Grandfather was so depressed about it he followed her a few years later. I believe he was 92 also. |
| Posted by: Falachaidh 25-Apr-2002, 11:31 AM |
| My condolences go to you Aon. I lost both my grandmothers within 6 months of each other. One expected and one not. My one side stole all of her jewlery before she died. I was supposed to get the wedding set, but it apparently was "lost". So all I have is memories from her and those will be the stories I tell my future children. For me, it doesn't matter that I have nothing tangable. Cherish the memores |
| Posted by: Aon_Daonna 26-Apr-2002, 07:57 AM |
| Again thank you very much for being there for me. I really appreciate that. The funeral was today and I just came back home. Tonight my grandfather celebrates his 70th birthday so this day is quite busy. And since I don't have write my first exam until thursday I also think I can come to chat again saturday night. well, for me it's saturday night, or better: sunday morning |
| Posted by: Mel 26-Apr-2002, 11:51 AM |
| This message is to thank you all for your support. I'm feeling a little better now even if there's many problems that aren't solve yet. I'm not crying everyday anymore and I don't want to sleep all the time now.:) Your messages and kind words have been a great help during this hard time and thanks a lot again. you all |
| Posted by: Aon_Daonna 27-Apr-2002, 09:20 AM |
| I know that it is always helpful to tell others of your problems. Perhaps they cannot help, perhaps they can, but it is always good to have somebody to talk to. I am depressive, too. Not now but I have medicaments against it. I know the feeling of being down for weeks. And I know that it is good to have somebody around. I try to help anyone who has the same problems by listening/reading and trying to cheer up. And I'm really glad that you're feeling better. |
| Posted by: MartinaBC 30-Apr-2002, 10:16 AM | ||
I know exactly how you feel, hope you feel better soon! I have my depressive days here too from al the crap we went and are still going through in Peru (earthquakes, heavy dieases, terrible experiences in a guerrilla zone some years ago). Unfortunately no possiblity here to get help or medicines for it....so I have tolive with it. ONly light: My friends on the net, especially in a Runrig chat, and here.... xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Martina BC |