I Know I Did The Right Thing, so why must I feel so bothered....

[delainesunshine1978]

Last night I sent a gentle, but firm email to a person on my list ending our so called friendship. He was in my life when I was 15 years old. I see him again a few months ago and then one day I said hey, how is life in your world? He requested to come on my myspace list and even though I didnt feel comfortable with him being on it I oked it......

I see that was where I am at fault for sure!

We email back and forth and to me he seemed grown up a lot. I never got personal with him as I am married! One thing he said that is noteworthy to this story is he is in love with a very innocent girl who kept turning him down because he us not an innocent guy!

Almost a week ago this other girl starts to post on his page, I am not really liking her, I clicked on her picture as I love to look at peoples profiles, sometimes I see really great pictures! This time I really saw a dark side.....Her whole layout was NASTY!!!! It was by far the most offensive thing I had ever seen on craigslist...So I reported it to myspace as things like that are against the terms and it was just scary and gross. I didnt go back!

Yesterday morning I saw he had new pictures up of a pretty dragon and I clicked on the album and when it opened I saw the girl, naked and tied up. I wont get into any more detail then that. It scared me, and grossed me out and I felt sick about it all day. My daughter could have seen it also as the album was not marked to warn and she walks aroud me all the time.

After thinking about it all day I emailed him and said I just cannot be your friend anymore. I basically said that was sick stuff that I want nothing to do with, and I would never be garenteed not seeing anything of that nature again. ...I didnt go on about it and I kept most of what I felt about it to myself! But he emailed me three times, he said things like she was abused and she has to vent and she has freedom of speech......then he said I was sinning because I am judgemental, and the last email he goes onto to say his belief in God is gone because of Me!

After hours of getting upset over those words I emailed him again saying I care what happened to her, I do! At the same time I have every right to safeguard my eyes, heart and mind. And she was breaking the terms, that isnt freedom of speech!

Now I sit here awaiting another email telling me how I am wrong! As My subject line says, I know I did the right thing but I feel sick, and stressed about the whole thing.

I do not like people using my God to hurt me with also. Everytime I make a stand for my morals someone attacks God, and I am far from judgemental. EWverybody has a choice to believe and do as they please. And I choose to stay away from sick sex pictures and the people that so proudly display them.....

[delainesunshine1978]

Mistake...where I said 'the girls profile was the mpost nasty thing I've seen on craigslist'...I meantMYSPACE, I get the two mixed up all the time....It wont let me edit so I had to tell you this way.....

[Harlot]

You did the right thing,but it is sad that there are people out there who like to look at that. You stood up for what you believe in as you should. That girl needs help and the kind of help she needs is not going to be found on myspace. All she is doing is feeding that type of person that she doesn't need to be friends with. You just keep being the sweet girl you are because you can't change people, they have too be the one to want too change.

[jayhenson]

I agree that you did the right thing. Her profile is one of the things that will get myspace eventually shut down. His telling you of his lost faith in god is because of you was simply juvenile acting out. If he would use something so stupid, he has not grown up at all. Her alleged abuse is by no means an excuse to proudly post pictures of yourself being debased and humiliated, whether it is a turn-on or not. Her desire to post those is a completely separate issue and his desire to defend their posting on those grounds shows a complete lack of empathy for the supposed abuse as well as a lack or moralistic limits....he just likes seeing her naked and vulnerable.

You did right, quit stressing on it.

Peace,

[delainesunshine1978]

OK I will stop stressing...Thank you both!