I just found out my grandma passed away Thursday night. I am at peace with that. What bothers me is that my father's side of the family didn't care enough about me to keep my contact information. (We haven't exactly had the best relationship) So now I am angry.
Keep me in your thoughts. I am going to go to the funeral, and I am going to basically not have enything to do with them anymore.
Thanks
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I'm sorry to hear that RavenWing. Death is something I haven't really had to deal with as of yet, so I honestly can't empathize. But I do send my condolences.
My only concern is your choice of actions. You're doing exactly what so many members of my family has done, and detatching yourself from the rest. Trust me, it's not the answer. Creating a rift is the last thing you want. It may seem that way now, but believe me, it'll become a burden sooner than later. You'll find yourself without a family, and that'll make you the one who's suffering. Please let the passing of your grandmother be cause for tribute, not for anger.
One way or the other, you're in my thoughts.
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Sorry to hear about your loss. My Grandmother (Maternal) passed away in 97 so I know how hard it can be.
As for the family I would not let it bother you so much. The important thing right now is having your chance to say goodbye to your grandmother do not let the family ruin this for you. If they are not caring enough to advise you (Assuming this being they didn't have contact info) then you should not let this ruin this moment. Attend and as you said just don't mingle anymore then neccessary to be polite under the circumstances.
RavenWing, my deepest condolences to you and your family on your loss. You will see her when you pass on from this life. I know I'll see my grandparents there.
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RavenWing - I am so sorry for your loss. I'm relatively new to this site and haven't replied to many of the topics, but felt inclined to do so today. I understand how you feel as I was once long ago in a similar situation. Having lost my grandfather then not attending due to family differences. It caused a rift and unrest within me. At least you say you will go, but please be the better person and not to let them bring you down. Perhaps there are other reasons they did not have your contact information that you're unaware of. The pain you feel now will pass. If you decide to disassociate yourself with the rest, it will not hurt them, only you.
Been there, done that; in my case, a relative by marriage decided that no one out of town would want to attend the funeral of my favorite aunt, and so had the services held so fast that no one could have attended from out of town even had we wanted to. While my bridges aren't burned, they're smouldering... My thoughts and prayers are with you.
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Where now the horse and the rider? Where is the horn that was blowing? Where is the helm and the hauberk, and the bright hair flowing? Where is the hand on the harpstring, and the red fire glowing? Where is the spring and the harvest and the tall corn growing? They have passed like rain on the mountain, like a wind in the meadow The days have gone down in the West behind the hills into shadow Who shall gather the smoke of the dead wood burning Or behold the flowing years from the Sea returning? ~ J.R.R. Tolkien
I am sorry for your loss and sorry for your familial difficulties. We have similiar difficulties with my husband's family and I know how it made his grandmother's passing last year all the more difficult. Sometimes people do have to go their seperate ways, at least for a time. I know it is easier said than done, but try and focus on your grandma's memory. My thoughts are with you.
Elspeth
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Raven wing I am sorry to hear of your loss, and I know what your going though, I recently loss both my parents. And remember you have some good friends here if you need to talk.
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Slainte Cho Sona ri radan ann am muileann and Gus an coinnich sinn a rithisd Clan Lamont
RavenWing, I am so sorry to hear about your Grandmother passing on! I have lost several members in my immediate family and I know had bad it hurts. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I hope you and your family would reconcile. Think about this... Do you think your Grandmother would want her family to be feuding?
Ravenwing, I'm sorry about your Grandmother's passing. It's probably best to not stir things up. You can always just not associate with them afterwards. You can always come back here and rant to us if necessary! Ladies Grace to you, Josie
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